Can premature ejaculation be cured by visiting a surrogate, another name for a sex therapist? Is it no different to prostitution? Let’s take a closer look at this unique way to cure premature ejaculation.
The Root Cause Of Premature Ejaculation
I’ve written about this in the past but, in case you’re not already aware, the root cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety, more specifically, anxiety about your performance.
Therefore, the only real lasting cure is to rid yourself of the anxiety.
What Is A Surrogate?
A surrogate is a “hands on” sex therapist. The idea of using a surrogate was first suggested by Masters & Johnson, pioneering husband and wife sex therapist pioneers in the 1970s. They said that they were able to cure many men of their condition by referring them to surrogates.
The Theory
The idea is that a man can be cured by having real, hands on sex. Sex is about more than just penetration and friction.
It’s about becoming acutely aware of your body and your sexuality, forming a connection with your partner, being part of a humanistic act, building mutual relations and more.
The idea is that when a man understands this or rediscovers this side of himself then he will no longer suffer from performance anxiety and therefore premature ejaculation.
Does It Work?
Masters & Johnson claimed success rates of 75% from surrogate therapy. Other data is difficult to come by because it is considered taboo in many countries for a psychotherapist or psychiatrist to refer someone to a surrogate. This is because many people idiotically compare it with prostitution which is completely different.
In fact, there are some countries where surrogacy is perfectly normal. In Israel, for example, the state promotes the use of surrogacy for injured soldiers. Australia and The Netherlands also have a history of using surrogates.
Where Can I Get One?
Normally, people are referred by their doctor or psychiatrist. However, you really have to get lucky and hit the jackpot to find a surrogate in this way.
Alternatively, there are some surrogate clinics who advertise on the internet and you can book a week off work to travel and have your therapy at the same time.
Another way is to try and find a partner in the classifieds. You don’t necessarily need an experienced sex therapist to benefit. I would recommend going to a site like CraigsList or Corkin and checking out their “casual encounters” section and looking for an older woman who is likely to be more patient or understanding.
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